In life we are going to have experiences in relationships when things get heated or emotional. Sometimes the best remedy for the situation is allowing time to pass. In these situations it is usually very uncomfortable and we may feel the impulse to resolve it as quickly as possible. For instance maybe you have a misunderstanding with a friend and they want to talk it out as soon as possible. Logically, it may seem like the best option is to talk it out. But when you feel into talking it out, your body is filled with dread or you just can’t call them back. Is this coming from a space of avoidance? Or do you just need a little time to sort things out? Sometimes the gift of letting time pass is it helps us let go of being right.

Immediate responses are often in the heat of emotions and can be one-sided and defensive. The problem with this approach is it that it might add to the challenge rather than remedy it. Emotions are good and serve to inform us about our selves, our triggers and places that need attention. The stirred up state is usually a reactive state, not the best place to act from. So when you can, in a heated situation give it time and space, days or even weeks, so you can find more openness in when you do come together.