And speaking to an insightful friend, she brought up her own storm in her intimate relationship, and very thoughtfully brought up how unseated she became when her relationship is not smooth.  It is so easy to define ourselves according to our life circumstances; the temperature of our relationships, the discomfort in our working environment, and our physical well being.

The idea of staying anchored in the midst of the 40 mph gusts blasting at my window or when external circumstances are unfriendly at best, can be challenging.   And how can we stay and cultivate an internal reality that is solid and holds the essence of our natural strength?  It is not to say that the external circumstances will not affect us as we experience and feel our way through life.  But how can the circumstances become a component of our existence or even the catalyst for shift, change or acceptance but not the center?

My definition of personal strength has changed over the years.  It used to pertain to the ability to endure dark times, and be able to exert my power
and claim my position.  The change in how I define my personal strength has to do with realizing power may have less to do with force but more with contemplation.  And your relationships may not be smooth sailing, and your friend my have unflattering opinions of you, and your personal health may be a mess.  And maybe this is an opportunity to tap into infinite reserves of personal strength.  Maybe when you feel plowed over by what the world is presenting you, you could just stop for a moment.  Tune into the sensation and offer yourself unconditional love.  Find your way to the moment and see if you can touch into the comfort or warmth that exists within you. Ultimately we have so little control of anything.   Our inner world is ours to shine light on whatever we want.